Editing Quoiromantic

'''Quoiromantic''', also known as '''WTFromantic,''' is an alternative to a [[romantic orientation]] label.  

The originator of the ''quoi-'' prefix, Cor, defines being quoiromantic as 1) not understanding or actively disidentifying with romance/romantic attraction/romantic orientation as sensible/applicable categories, personally, or 2) feeling that these categories are personally inaccessible, inapplicable, or non-sensical.<ref>[http://epochryphal.tumblr.com/post/106762907052/a-note-on-quoi A Note on Quoi-]</ref> The premise of the ''quoi-'' identity challenges the idea that these concepts are universally applicable and relevant.<ref>[http://epochryphal.tumblr.com/post/112951589957/quoi-is-not-cant-tell Quoi- is NOT “can’t tell”]</ref>

Quoiromantic experiences may include:  
* Being unsure if you experience [[romantic attraction]] or not
* Being unable to understand attraction as a concept or feeling
* Finding the concept of attraction to be inaccessible, inapplicable, or nonsensical
* Being unable to pin down a clear understanding of [[romantic attraction]], so being unable to say whether or not you experience it
* Having a difficulty distinguishing romantic attraction from other types of attraction, or being unable to distinguish them at all 
* Questioning romanticism for such a long time that the questioning itself becomes the identity, rather than a path toward any other more stable identity
* Struggling with romanticism because it feels too complicated
* Simply not feeling that any other romantic orientation label is applicable 

[[File:Bdb58c0e6131e8e447bbcd43bfff2aeb3a53edd1 hq.jpg|thumb|Commonly used Quoiromantic flag]]
[[File:Flag (1).png|thumb|Alternate flag by yuyush1ma (tumblr)]]
[[File:QuoiSpiralQ.png|thumb|The spiral Q, a symbol of Quoi]]
Other terms that are similar to quoiromantic include [[gray-romantic|grayromantic]], [[nebularomantic]], [[idemromantic]], [[platoniromantic]], and [[quasiromantic]].

==Surveys==
It is unknown how many people identify with quoiromanticism outside the asexual community. However, the results of the 2016 asexual community census showed that 9.5% of ace respondents identify as quoiromantic or wtfromantic.<ref>Bauer, C., Miller, T., Ginoza, M., Guo, Y., Youngblom, K., Baba, A., Penten, P., Meinhold, M., Ramaraj, V., Ziebert, J.,Trieu, T., Adroit, M., (2018). [https://asexualcensus.files.wordpress.com/2018/11/2016_ace_community_survey_report.pdf The 2016 Asexual Community Survey Summary Report]. The Asexual Community Survey Team.</ref>

In 2019, an informal survey asked respondents to finish the sentence "For me, the distinction between romantic & nonromantic is..." according to a 5 point scale: 1 for Unclear, 5 for Clear. Out of those who checked off "quoiromantic" or "wtfromantic" as terms they would use to describe themselves (N=319), 45.8% answered 1 (Unclear), 37% answered 2, 10.7% answered 3 (Neutral), 5.6% answered 4, and 0.9% answered 5 (Clear).<ref>[https://www.pillowfort.social/posts/803837 Romantic Ambivalence Survey: Data by Subgroup - WTF/Quoi]</ref>

==History ==
As a consequence of the romantic orientation model becoming popular in the [[Asexual spectrum|asexual]] community in the 2000s, some asexual people began to openly discuss why the model did not feel right for them.<ref>[https://theacetheist.wordpress.com/2019/01/04/quoiro-wtfromantic-a-brief-timeline-of-disidentification-with-personal-rejection-of-romantic-orientation/ Quoiro/WTFromantic: a brief timeline of disidentification with & personal rejection of romantic orientation]
</ref> For example, Kaz wrote that for them, asking "so what's your romantic orientation?" is "the wrong question."<ref>[https://kaz.dreamwidth.org/238564.html A/romanticism]</ref> In 2011, in order to express frustration with the system, Sciatrix began half-jokingly referring to herself as "wtfromantic" (as in "what-the-fuck-romantic").<ref>[https://writingfromfactorx.wordpress.com/2011/05/22/writhing-in-the-throes-of-unrequited-like/ Writhing in the Throes of Unrequited Like]		 
</ref><ref>[https://writingfromfactorx.wordpress.com/2011/11/26/a-set-of-affections-difficult-to-characterize/ A Set of Affections Difficult to Characterize]		 
</ref> In her words, "it started as a flippant, honestly fairly sarcastic frustrated comment, not an attempt as a serious identity designation," one she did not expect to resonate with other people and begin to proliferate.<ref>[https://writingfromfactorx.tumblr.com/post/86380040349/ultraviolet Ultraviolet]</ref> As a more pronounceable alternative, quoiromantic was proposed by Cor in 2012.<ref>[https://epochryphal.tumblr.com/post/37572886173/a-thought-wtfromantic-is-a-very-important A thought]</ref> Both terms are still in use today. The premise of the quoiromantic identity has also spread to other areas of identity, resulting in terms such as quoisexual, [https://epochryphal.tumblr.com/post/91335142632/wait-shit-the-obvious-word-coinage-quoigender quoigender], and [https://solipsistful.tumblr.com/quoigenic quoigenic]. 

==Symbolism==
[[File:CorsQuoiFlag.png|thumb|207x207px|Cor's original flag design, edited to add the intended transparency ]]
<p style="margin-top: 1.35em; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 1.35em; margin-left: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; border-top-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-left-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-color: initial; outline-width: 0px; outline-style: initial; outline-color: initial; font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-size: 1em; font-family: inherit; vertical-align: baseline; line-height: 1.5; text-align: justify;">In 2015, Cor proposed a flag design for the quoi identity: four lavender question marks rotated in a ring to share a single dot, overlaid on a cool grey background in a house-shape, instead of the traditional rectangular flag.<ref>[https://epochryphal.tumblr.com/post/129602967777/ok-problem-solved-i-found-a-color-called-cool Cor's Quoiromantic Flag Proposal]</ref> Other flag design proposals have combined blue, green, black, and white or gray.<ref>[https://pride-color-schemes.tumblr.com/post/147022017775/quoi Quoiromantic Flag Designs]</ref> More recently, some simplified designs have been proposed inspired by the nontraditional flag shape idea, using a triangular flag shape instead.<ref>[https://queer-buccaneers.tumblr.com/post/185068311262/heres-an-idea-i-had-for-a-quoi-flag-thats-easier Simplified Quoi Flag Proposals]</ref></p>
==References==
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[[Category:Romantic Orientations]]