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Requiesromantic (Requis) is a romantic orientation characterized by limited or no romantic attraction/interest/activity due to some form of emotional exhaustion. Emotional exhaustion may be the result of previous romantic endeavors and past experiences dealing with sexuality, or from something else just as emotionally draining.

The romantic orientation has been heavily influenced by "The Spoon Theory", which is a personal story by Christine Miserandino.


Black: Aromanticism and Asexuality

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Light Blue: Requis means rest and blue seems to symbolize being a rest.

Light Yellow: Requissexuals/romantics are individuals who experience very little to no sexual/romantic attraction because of being drained energy and emotionally wise.

White: Lack of attraction

Grey: Aromantic

"The Spoon Theory"[]

Tumblr explains in depth the Spoon Theory. Here are the key points.

"The spoon theory uses a metaphor of spoons to turn energy into a measurable concept. A person living with chronic illness or disability only has a certain number of spoons in their possession each day, and every small action a person takes can result in a lost spoon. Once a person loses a spoon, it is very hard to get that back until after a full night’s sleep. actions like getting out of bed, taking a shower, walking, and driving can require enormous amounts of energy that people don’t have. These chronic illnesses or disabilities can be visible or invisible. You cannot look at a person and tell if they have a chronic illness or disability or not, and these illnesses are not always physical in nature.

Some examples of reasons people might use the spoon theory include:[]

  • Depression
  • PTSD
  • Functional Neurological Disorder
  • Anxiety disorders
  • Hypothyroidism
  • Fibromyalgia
  • Chronic Fatigue Syndrome
  • POTS
  • Nail-Patella Syndrome
  • Multiple Sclerosis
  • Lupus
  • Endometriosis
  • Autism
  • Cancers (for example, leukemia, leiomyosarcoma)

There are countless other chronic illnesses and disabilities that aren’t listed here! It should also be pointed out that some people may have limited energy in some area of life, but not have a chronic illness or disability. If someone you know has a chronic illness or disability, please take the time to try to understand their condition(s) and work with them to create a healthy and de-stigmatized relationship."